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IMPORTANT LESSONS/VALUES FOR OUR CHILDREN (1994 hits)


Peace To All:

Yesterday morning I was at a school board meeting and one of the staff members mentioned something that caused me to think on the lessons we teach our children, both directly and indirectly.

Perhaps we can share some of the valuable lessons that we are striving to teach our children or that our parents taught us. If its not lessons, maybe we can share the values we are trying to instill in them and the methods we are using to do so.

I thank Allah that both of my parents took the time to teach me well. Not only that, both sides of my family had a hand in my upbringing.

One of the lessons my parents taught me is to always think carefully about a topic or situation and then arrive at a conclusion. And also to not just change my stance or position just because another person might disagree or hold a different opinion. They taught me how to listen to others, take into consideration the other person's point of view, and then compare it against my own. They taught me how to reason and articulate my thoughts, ideas...They did this by allowing me to give well thought about feedback in response to their discipline choices.

Another value my parents instilled was the value of reading. I was required to read the newspaper every day, in addition to doing other assignments that were given by my school teachers.

I think that it is good as Black people to share our child rearing techniques, not just mothers, but fathers too.

Let's elevate our conversation.....I welcome all feedback, thank you in advance.

Peace
Posted By: Siebra Muhammad
Thursday, November 18th 2010 at 5:48PM
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In addition to what's posted above children must be taught the difference between pride and conceit. In working with the public school system, I see that the middle school age children often do not know how to feel good about themselves without comparing themselves to others and without putting other people down.

Children often base their value on what they have. On the other hand, I notice that some children are excluded from certain groups based on what they do not have; and, to gain acceptance they behave in a way that leads to trouble.


Thursday, November 18th 2010 at 5:56PM
Siebra Muhammad
what we do is allow my kids to express them self in a once a week meeting we all sit down and talk about everything from s*x to aids and i let then do the talking !
we find this to be good for our family the kids feel that they can come to us and talk about anything they know we are right there for them !
as they where growing up we taught then its better to get punished for telling the truth instead of getting caught in a lie and getting twice the punishment and labeled as a lair !
Thursday, November 18th 2010 at 5:58PM
DAVID JOHNSON
it is very important for parents to reinforce to the kids that you are there for then and your love for them will never change ,i have kids that are older and haved moved away but they call me almost everyday and respect the fact that i will tell them like it is and no sugar coating ! love is the magic word if you let them know you love them they will always be there and trust and respect you !
Thursday, November 18th 2010 at 6:03PM
DAVID JOHNSON
Sisters where y'all at on this one? Surely you are good parents...
Thursday, November 18th 2010 at 6:21PM
Siebra Muhammad
Harry get off this post you are one dimensional so your opinion don't count
Thursday, November 18th 2010 at 6:28PM
Siebra Muhammad
SIEBRA--

Excellent, thouightful advice.

I like the idea of reading the newspaper every day. That makes you aware of what is going on in the world.

You are so right...ELEVATE THE CONVERSATION!!!




Thursday, November 18th 2010 at 10:18PM
Richard Kigel
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